It is not often that the researched are provided an opportunity to take a role in the collection, analysis and interpretation of data they themselves provide in collaboration with the researchers. This paper describes an innovative indigenous-centred research method that was developed to explore the relationship between intra-whānau (family) communication and family well-being. Family relationships, communication styles and the intergenerational transmission of cultural values were explored through self-reflexive praxis where research participants were encouraged to think reflexively about their conversations. Conversations that took place in the private world of family were audio-recorded by family members, without the imposition of an intrusive researcher. Family decided the extent to which their private lives were exposed to the researchers via the recordings and assisted the researchers with an interpretation of their everyday conversations in a collaborative process.